I heard something on the radio that made me want to blog just now. The DJ was telling a story, and she used the term “gut check.” The first thing that came to mind when I heard that was focused on sports. That’s where I have heard it the most. Then, I thought about it in terms of doing anything where I would just have to give it my all. Where anybody would.
The story the DJ was telling was about really looking at herself and preconceived notions and stereotypes of others. It made me think of how I have been thinking of others. The words I have used to and about others. Yuck! It isn’t like I have been using horrible language about, or to others, but language about, or to them in and of itself.
Before I walk onto a unit at work, I pray that God will give me His thoughts, words, and behaviors regardless of the situations I will face. I, sometimes, pray that throughout the day. Yesterday, and into last night, work was somewhat tense as there was change. Not everyone does well with change. I did not mind the change. I enjoyed it, actually. But, I could hear others complaining, whining about others. At the end of the day, I was not having Godly thoughts. Yes, that makes me incredibly human, but it was just not okay with me. I found myself talking with others about those who were complaining and whining. (Shaking my head as I do my gut check). I just had to leave work. It was time, anyway.
What we say, and how we say things can leave insurmountable wounds and scars in others.
“The words of the reckless pierce like swords, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.” — Proverbs 12:18
Pierce like swords!!! Ouch. It does not matter what your friends are saying. Be the one to stand up and speak wisely. It does not matter if gossip is surrounding you. Get up and leave. Human beings tend to be deaf to what they choose not to hear. Human beings tend to be so quick with an insult or a comeback of some sort. Human beings anger quickly. All of this is an epidemic, if you will.
“My dear brothers and sisters, take not of this. Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry.” — James 1:19
Have you ever stopped and listened to what it sounds like when you are speaking ill of others? Contempt breeds contempt. When we speak poorly of others, that poison is inside of us. I have never felt good about talking poor against another. As a teenager, I would laugh about hearing others tear someone else down. Not because I thought it was right, but the reason does not matter. The action matters. I have been given almost forty-five years to learn that spewing hatred toward others is a nasty side effect of hatred toward ourselves. I believe that. I am living my life now to build others up. I fall short sometimes. More than I would like, in fact. I keep thinking how it would feel if we talked to others the way we would want them to speak to us. If you spent one day speaking to others in a way that built them up instead of tearing them down, I wonder how you would feel at the end of the day. (Yeah, this is a challenge of sorts).
“Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.” — Ephesians 4:29
Some will read this and accept my challenge. If you do, I don’t need to know. Some will read this and continue to bad mouth others and talk down to people. Whatever you choose, do a gut check at the end of the day and see how you are feeling.
I love you.
May God bless you.