The thing I most dread, anymore, is opening up Facebook and seeing how many miles someone just ran, how many pounds someone else just lost, how many pounds someone “needs” to lose, and what pant size someone is now in. I usually see all of those things within a day of Facebooking. I used to be one of those people who wanted to let the whole world know that I was doing those things, but I had no idea how much hurt I was perpetrating on someone else.
In the past couple of years or so, I have had to just stop looking some days. I have had to “unfollow” people recently because I just cannot keep reading about food, exercise, or anything weight related. For those of you reading this and thinking, “Oh my gosh! Get over it!” let me just explain that this is not an issue regarding jealousy. This is a real issue of struggling with what a society sees as success. It’s a real issue of being healthy or unhealthy. Smaller size does not equal health. Smaller size does not equal happiness. Smaller size does not equal love.
It just doesn’t.
Society should not get to dictate what success looks like, but it does. It always has, and sadly, it probably always will.
The “perfect” body is nonexistent.
Bulimia, Anorexia, Overeating. Those are real, scary, deadly disorders.
They all have everything to do with how one feels on the inside.
What are you feeling on the inside that is pushing you to feel the need to lose 1 pound by the end of the week?
What are you feeling on the inside that is pushing you to feel the need to work out multiple hours a day on a daily basis?
What are you feeling on the inside that is pushing you to feel so very unhappy with the outside?
There isn’t just one simple answer to those questions. Ok, the answer may be simple, but the reasoning and feeling behind that answer is not so simple. That, I can guarantee you.
I would much rather read about how full your heart is today.
I would much rather read about your hopes and dreams that are completely unrelated to weight, food, exercise, or the size of your brand new jeans.
This may not change one person’s view on how they treat themselves or others based on what society believes they should look like.
However, by reading this, maybe you can become aware of how those things affect others.
I do love you, and it has nothing to do with the way you look. It never has. It never will.