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Left Alone

17 May

Do you ever catch yourself making the statement, “I wish I knew what it would be like to _______________”?  I’m pretty sure that most of you who read this will say, “yes.”  We are human, and we have curiosity about a lot of different things.  But, just because we are curious by nature, does not mean we should act on that curious nature.  

For instance, what if someone made the statement, “I wish I knew what it would be like to be drunk and drive around the city” and then acted that out?  Well, let’s look at the possible consequences.  This person could “simply” get drunk and drive around the city and wake up with a hangover in the morning.  That person could also get drunk, drive around the city, and wreck his or her vehicle.  That same person could get drunk, drive around the city, wreck his or her vehicle into another vehicle harming, or killing someone else and end up in jail….or worse.  

Are those consequences really worth checking out that curiosity?  

What if someone made the statement, “I wish I knew what it was like to have a one night stand”?  Again, let’s look at the consequences.  This person could have a one night stand and “simply” feel guilty about it in the morning.  This person could have a one night stand, feel guilty about it in the morning, and have to drive that person back to his or her car…..awkward to say the least.  This person could have a one night stand, feel guilty about in the morning, drive that person back to his or her own car, go home and use the bathroom and experience painful burning only to find out that he/she has contracted a “simple” STD.  This person could have a one night stand, become pregnant (or impregnate someone) and have to deal with decisions regarding becoming a parent or killing a child.  This person could have a one night stand and find out months later that he/she has tested positive for three other letters….HIV….get AIDS….and die a horrible death.  

Are those consequences really worth checking out that curiosity?

What if someone who was married made the statement, “I wish I knew what it was like to be intimate with that person”?  That married individual could have an intimate relationship with someone else and hide it from everyone for the rest of his or her life.  That married individual could have an intimate relationship with someone else and hide it from everyone and suffer greatly from the guilt for the rest of his or her life.  That married individual could have an intimate relationship with someone else, hide it from everyone for the rest of his or her life, suffer greatly from the guilt due to constant memories of it, and end up killing him/herself because of it causing damage to so many other people.

Are those consequences really worth checking out that curiosity?

Some of these things really happen.  Some are planned, and some of them are not planned at all, but they happen.  When we let our emotions get the best of us, we end up in some really unhealthy places, and do not think for one minute that there are not consequences.  There are always consequences!  Once something is known, there is no unknowing it.  It’s there.  It’s a part of your psyche.  It is in your head in the darkest, loneliest corner.  Sometimes the harder you try not to think about any of those curiosities you decided to want to know about and be involved in, the more you do think about them.  The bigger that monster becomes.  Imagine Godzilla flattening New York City.  

You are more powerful than those emotions.  Those curiosities.  You can keep yourself from tearing your world apart and from tearing someone else’s world apart.  “It can’t and won’t happen to me,” may be in your head right now.  I am here to tell you that it CAN and WILL if you do not become aware of where your thoughts and emotions are taking you.  You can control your thoughts.  And, understand that your thoughts, emotions, and behaviors are all connected.  Intertwined in a neat little bundle just waiting for your permission to get the ball rolling.  “I would never drink and drive,” “I would never have a one night stand,” and “I would never be involved in an infidelity” are all things you can surely tell yourself, but I am telling you right this second that you are perfectly capable.  I do not care how involved in church you are.  I do not care how long you have been married.  I do not care that you have never had a drink in your life.  I do not care how good of a person you think you are.  You can get so caught up in your emotions and thoughts that you are blinded by the possible consequences of any behavior.  

AND…AND your behaviors always affect others whether you realize it or not.  You never plan to hurt the people you love, but when you allow your thoughts and emotions to get control of you, you can do some serious damage.

Evil doesn’t always look like evil.  It’s often everything you have ever wanted, needed, or craved.  It’s often gift-wrapped with pretty wrapping paper and a bright, shiny bow.  Fool’s gold is called that for a reason.  Those who searched for gold were often tricked by the shiny appearance of a small nugget.  They believed that they had found the real thing when all along it was nothing but Pyrite.  Not everything/everyone is as it/they seem(s).  Those examples of outcomes above, even in the least horrible outcomes, are still horrible outcomes.  Something unhealthy, negative, still happens.

We all have curiosity.  We all want to know the answers to all of our questions, but there are significant reasons why we do not know certain things.  You are worth way more than the consequences you will have to face.

Some things are just better left alone.

 

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